Brand New's Jesse Lacey Addresses Sexual Misconduct Allegations
On Friday (November 10), Brand New frontman Jesse Lacey was accused sexual misconduct with a minor. Now, Lacey has responded to those claims.
As previously reported, a woman named Nicole Elizabeth Garey accused Lacey soliciting nude photos her when she was just 15 and he was 24. She also stated that the events involved the musician making her watch him masturbate Skype.
Garey said, "I never wanted to come forward because it didn't seem bad enough and it wasn't physically violent, but sexual abuse comes in different levels and forms and all it is unacceptable."
Now Lacey has issued a lengthy statement addressing the claims, saying. "The actions my past have caused pain and harm to a number people, and I want to say that I am absolutely sorry."
You can read his statement in full below:
In an effort to address recent events and the public conversation currently happening, I feel it is important to make a clear and personal statement.
The actions my past have caused pain and harm to a number people, and I want to say that I am absolutely sorry. I do not stand in defense myself nor do I forgive myself. I was selfish, narcissistic, and insensitive in my past, and there are a number people who have had to shoulder the burden my failures. I apologize for the hurt I have caused, and hope to be able to take the correct actions to earn forgiveness and trust.
Early on in my life, I developed a dependent and addictive relationship with sex. I was scared it, ashamed, and unwilling or unable to admit it, and so it grew into a consistent and terrible problem. Years ago, after admitting my habits and cheating to my then soon to be wife, I began to approach my problem in a serious way. I entered pressional treatment, both in group therapy and individual counseling, and revealed the realities what a terrible place I had gotten to in my life, and what a terrible impact my actions had on people.
Lust, sex, love, and arousal were coping tools for me, and I returned to them repeatedly. I detached my own feelings and emotions from most my sexual interactions. I hid, or lied about my behavior to escape reproach. I was a habitual cheater. I have been unfaithful in many, if not most my relationships, including the relationship with my wife, who has with all her might, patience, and grace, tried to hold our marriage together, despite having to endure the pain the revelations my past. It is heart wrenching that the most important changes in my life have come at the expense others.
I am sorry for how I have hurt people, mistreated them, lied, and cheated. I am sorry for ignoring the way in which my position, status, and power as a member a band affected the way people viewed me or their approach to their interactions with me. And I am sorry for how ten I have not afforded women the respect, support, or honesty that they deserved, and which is their right. I believe in the equality and autonomy all, but in my life I have been more a detriment to these ideals than an advocate.
I am working to shed all my narcissism and my self obsession, and to be better. In sobriety I have changed my life and my mind in real and important ways. I have also revealed the truth my behaviors to myself and to others. I do not have words to express the patience and help my wife has fered me. I love my family with an intensity and realness that I have never felt before, and as a husband and a father I have been granted the opportunity to wake up each day with the intent to serve my family and the people around me, and to feel, for the first time that I have purpose.
The fact remains that none us get to put a wall up between who we are and who we were. I need to earn forgiveness. Concepts like repentance, compassion, and love, are made real through actions, and it's through my actions that I need to prove change. I hope I can show humility, and that the pain I have caused people can heal. I am not above reproach, and no one should be.
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